I went to see mr j yesterday. Lately he has been sleeping most of the time. He has refused any therapy so they had to discontinue it. When he is up he is now in a wheel chair as he no longer is as mobile as before. They have an alarm on his bed and one they attach to the wheel chair if he should try to get up without assistance.
I had them get him up for me and then I wheeled him into the dining area. I usually bring him some snacks to eat when I see him. He seems to really enjoy that.
He doesn’t say much anymore. When I talk to him at times it seems his mind is somewhere else. The way he is right now it seems to me that he is going downhill rapidly.
Not much else is new just about the same old same old. I would like to have him at home too but there is no way on” God’s Green Earth” that I could manage it both physically and financially.
I guess in the months ahead what will happen will happen. There is not much more that I can do but let him know that I am still around.
my sil had home hospice for her husband. She had to have him placed later in a hospice setting . (it wasn’t a NH but a facility just for terminal care”. He was still a little mobile and she couldn’t lift him when he would fall or even get him off of the toilet. She had her kids helping but that still was not adequate.
That situation was a bit different, he had and died from congested heart failure but he was still sharp in his mind. He made the decision to have the pacemaker and defibulator unhooked and after about a few weeks he died in that hospice house. My sil and their daughter where both there when he passed.
I always remember you know when these medical professionals would ask “Do you know where you are at”? My sil’s husband being a comical person up till the end would reply to them “Why don’t you know where you are”. Another of his favorites when they would ask “Are you in pain” would be answered “no she just left” referring of course to his wife.