i'm so HAPPY to see you!!!
please, don't ever feel that just because mary has died that you have nothing to offer or remember about the years she was ill. you can STILL share stories with us if we run into a similar problem with our loved ones that reminds you of a problem you had with mary and how you got thru it. you can STILL grieve here about what it was like for mary to finally die. we will come to that day with our loved ones sooner or later! and i will take cyber hugs from anyone !
you just told me something, too. you said sometimes when you left the nursing home after visiting mary you would have to pull over to the side of the road and cry. well, my husband drives me to the nursing home, so i don't have to pull over, but somedays i just start crying in the car, too. uncontrollable deep sobbing until the pain ends.
it helps. they say it's good to cry when you're unhappy because studies have shown that the tears contain chemicals that aren't good for your body, so in a way your body is getting rid of bad stuff when you cry.
so julia, i do hope you're feeling better and i'm glad you're back...because i do need your support here and i need pati's and joy's and karen's and jan's and jim's and dawn's and chris's and anyone else's that passes thru here every once in a while.
i thank you all for sharing and caring and being here for me ,