Hi friends, good to see the site up and running. Now all we need here are contributing members! I see you all have had a slow go of it since you came back online, but hopefully things will pick up and gain momentum as you go on. While I still and will always have CP, I am just learning to live with it....I did want to let my friends here know that I finally brought my husband home from the hospital today! Yes, it's been almost 3 months to the day since I brought him to the crisis center, and that is, in our opinion, way too long. I wish I could say we're home free and everything is coming up roses, but that is not the reality of the situation. I believe that he is still on way too many psych meds, and I will be taking him to his doctor ASAP. He is very, very subdued and quiet, which isn't him, really, but at least he is not either manic or terribly depressed, and has no thoughts of self-harm. It will take time, but he will make it.
Now, as to the title of this thread, I have applied for S.S. Disability, after doing the job for five years! Kind of weird. My DH applied and was approved shortly after he was admitted to the psych hospital, so that leaves me. Not only do I have CP, I also have depression and PTSD adult ADHD, without the -H- :o. As I figured would happen, I received a letter just the other day informing me of a consultative psych exam next Thursday. I expected this, as I had gotten reports from my own psych doc for other clmts while I was an adjudicator, and he doesn't really write very much on the forms that are sent out to the doctors. Knowing the rules, although my job was sedentary, it is rated a skill degree of 7 out of 10 on the rating scale, and I only have to be found to have a moderate psych impairment to be awarded disability due to my 'advanced age' --- since when is 59 considered 'advanced age'??? :ambivalence: See, the way the decision grid works is that if a person around 60 is found to have a moderate psych impairment, then he/she is only able to perform UNSKILLED work (rated a 1 or a 2), but my adv. age makes it hard to re-train me for another job. Even if I wanted to, there's no way I would ever go to work now and leave DH home alone! I am still re-living that awful night of our fire, when I opened my bedroom door to thick flames and smoke, and I know I haven't really had time to grieve the loss of our daughter...
So there you have it, a summary of my life as it is now, bumps in the road and all. I sure hope my DH will come around and be moe like himself. One thing I know for sure - there is no way he wants to go back into a psych hospital. Those places are like prisons, and it will certainly take time for him to re-enter the 'real world'.
I won't be around much, but will always have you guys in my heart, and will try to stop back every now and then.
Hugs to all, Jacquie