Marijo, It is good to hear from you. Our spinal issues and pain issues really puts some strain on our relationship. After 15 years my wife is finally coming to accept my disability but I don't really blame her as she has some mental issues IE Anxiety Depression, and it was hard for her to adjust. If we were like many other couples we would have been divorced already but each of us have been willing to try and work through our issues. What makes it bad is I feel bad about what my limits and pain levels cause her but their isn't any more I can do to make it better. Mary I am sorry to hear your husband is still not very able to adjust to all the medical issues you are dealing with. It is good that you have a good relation with your kids and grandchildren. I have a two year old grandchild and she makes my days much better when I get to see her. I am thankful they have decided to live in our small town so my wife and I can see her and the parents [my daughter] when we want.
The thing with our spinal issues and chronic pain is that it hits both of us in our relationship. The sad thing is that our spouse could never have to deal with it at all if they just left us. I am thankful that my wife has stuck it out with me because her life would be much easier if she went on her own way. I couldn't do it because I still love her and she still loves me enough to stay.
Mary, I hope you come around once in a while as I miss having you around.