Since there are no posts in PTSD I thought this was the next most appropriate place for this...
My ex-husband and the father of my 17 and 15 year old sons committed suicide back in May of 2011. This is going to be there first Christmas without their father. I have terrible anxiety about the situation and blame myself everyday for his death because I left him. I still loved him until the day he died and still do. I don't know what I was thinking. I think that if I hadn't maybe he would still be here and my kids would still have their dad.
The real reason I am writing is my 15 year old is having almost nightly nightmares and his anxiety is through the roof. He is refusing to get counseling (his father was the same way) and I don't know what to do. He is old enough in our state that he would have to consent to counseling so I can not force him to get it.
Shortly after my older son and I moved out, my ex met a woman and moved in with her because he was lonely. He told me daily he still loved me and we remained very close. We talked on the phone all the time and were very generous to each other during the divorce. It was almost like we were two roommates who decided to get our own places. There was no fighting over anything. The older son wanted to go with me and the younger one wanted to stay with him. No issues... no arguing.
My younger son found him after taking a medication overdose the week before he was found dead (self inflicted gunshot wound to the head). Thank God he didn't find him this time.
Both the boys are struggling. I need to help them but really don't know how. My older son is on psych meds but doesn't want counseling either. The younger one just takes Ativan as needed for panic attacks.
What would you suggest I do? Sunday is going to be the third hardest day of their lives behind the day they found out he passed away and the day he was buried.
Stacie
My ex-husband and the father of my 17 and 15 year old sons committed suicide back in May of 2011. This is going to be there first Christmas without their father. I have terrible anxiety about the situation and blame myself everyday for his death because I left him. I still loved him until the day he died and still do. I don't know what I was thinking. I think that if I hadn't maybe he would still be here and my kids would still have their dad.
The real reason I am writing is my 15 year old is having almost nightly nightmares and his anxiety is through the roof. He is refusing to get counseling (his father was the same way) and I don't know what to do. He is old enough in our state that he would have to consent to counseling so I can not force him to get it.
Shortly after my older son and I moved out, my ex met a woman and moved in with her because he was lonely. He told me daily he still loved me and we remained very close. We talked on the phone all the time and were very generous to each other during the divorce. It was almost like we were two roommates who decided to get our own places. There was no fighting over anything. The older son wanted to go with me and the younger one wanted to stay with him. No issues... no arguing.
My younger son found him after taking a medication overdose the week before he was found dead (self inflicted gunshot wound to the head). Thank God he didn't find him this time.
Both the boys are struggling. I need to help them but really don't know how. My older son is on psych meds but doesn't want counseling either. The younger one just takes Ativan as needed for panic attacks.
What would you suggest I do? Sunday is going to be the third hardest day of their lives behind the day they found out he passed away and the day he was buried.
Stacie
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