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    ((((((Hugs to All)))))) ~

    At 1:30 this morning, Jim passed. He is now pain-free, at peace and reunited with Jonathan and Michael.

    I did everything I could to help him, and in my heart, I knew that his journey would soon be completed. He was restless, grabbing at his blankets, everything around him. He pulled off the O2 cannula. He said he couldnít see. His voice began to fade.

    I kept kissing him and telling him how much I adore him, how thankful I am that God brought us together and for all he has done for our boys and me. His last words to me ~ ďI love you honey.Ē

    I called the mortuary and was told that I had to call the police. I called the police, and I was patched to the fire department, as paramedics had to pronounce him deceased. The 5 paramedics arrived within minutes. They were all very kind and compassionate.

    The police then arrived, 4 of them, and one of the officers is the same officer, who was here for Jonathan. He remembered everything about us, every detail and conversation. I know Jonathan and Michael must have timed it so he would be the officer to see me through this tragedy.

    A CSI officer arrived later and took photos. I had to line up his medication bottles on his tray for her to photograph.

    They all asked me the same questions, and I told them the history of our family. They looked at Jonís and Michaelís photos, and they were all amazed by our family.

    ďOurĒ officer called the coroner, and I didnít need to speak to her. He took care of everything for me.

    While waiting for the mortuary attendants, I bathed Jim and anointed him with my tears. I didnít know what to put on him for clothing. I chose one of Jonís gowns; in fact, the same pattern as the one I placed on Jonathan.

    The mortuary attendants couldnít have been more caring. Our officer stayed with me until the mortuary van drove away. Then he stood on the driveway and told me that heís seen a lot in his short time on the police force, but our family is the first time that he has felt overwhelmed with emotion. He said the love in our family and my devotion to our children and Jim inspired him.

    That was a little after 4 a.m., and itís now 5 a.m.

    In a couple of hours, I will call John and Nancy. I need to get some rest. I havenít slept at all, and Iíve been on my feet for many hours.

    Writing this now is sort of a debriefing for me. Iím going to lay down on the futon with my heating pad, and at least try to rest a little, if not sleep.

    Iíll probably finish this later in the day.


    I slept for about an hour. My first call was to Nancy. We cried and shared our memories. She is calling Dr. K for me.

    I will wait until this afternoon, when John is finished with work, to call him.

    The mortuary called, the same wonderful gentleman, who took care of Jonathanís arrangements. Because of COVID-19, all arrangements are made on the phone now, with emailing the documents. He was very kind. I asked him if I could call him tomorrow, as Iím just spent today.

    For now, Iím going to try to eat something and get some rest.

    I love you all and thank you so much for walking beside us every step of our journey. Jim loved you all too, and he knew all of your stories and prayed for you.

    God Bless You ~

    Love & Light,

    Mom to Jon, 49, and Michael, 32, who were born with an undiagnosed progressive neuromuscular disease and courageous spirits. Our Angel Michael received his wings in 2003. Our Angel Jon received his wings April 2019. April 2020, Jim, the world's most wonderful Dad, joined them. Now, they all watch over me.

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    God rest Jim and give him peace and a happy reunion with Michael and Jonathan.

    You did an exceptional job, Rose. Now you rest a bit.

    God bless you.
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    Oh, Rose, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. You and Jim demonstrated such a remarkable bond of resilience and strength. Jim, we came to know through your words, as a man of absolute optimism and lighthearted humor. Your love affair was evident and unmatched. I have never seen such a fighting spirit.

    Thank you for sharing your journey together with your family with us.

    Jim is at peace now, and, while the adjustment and loss probably still feel acute, and your home far too quiet, I hope you find some solace knowing he was welcomed by his sons and they can introduce him to this next chapter of his journey and he can fill them in on all the crazy stuff this earth has been throwing at us lately, if they aren't too busy playing hoops with Kobe. You knew he was okay leaving so long as you would be okay, he gave you that gift of clarity.

    I would just like to say how perfect that Jonathan left on Jesus' death, while Jim, on the weekday of his Resurrection, on a Monday.

    And given this auspicious day being 4/20, you know that Grassman was there to greet Jim with a real tribute about how this day should be honored, for how far society has come in respecting his med of choice. Grassman will be so happy to hear how far CBD has come and how it helped Jim in his journey. He will keep Jim company and thank him for his wife spending time and giving support to his old MS pals on BT. I imagine they are both laughing and enjoying themselves right now. They are both free of their bodily limitations now.

    Rose, you rest. You were the ultimate partner and caregiver, it was an absolute privilege to be a spectator as you opened up and shared your journey through love and loss here. It is time for you to rest your sore muscles for a while. Please listen to some beautiful music to fill your spirit and your home with those beautiful feelings that music can evoke that you talked about only recently as you listened to the covid concert and the Les Miz singing family. You have given of yourself to enrich the lives of others, I hope you will take some time to do nothing but quiet yourself so you can feel those strings that will always connect you to Jim and your sons, and feel their love that will always surround you.

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    Jim's painful journey is over now but I'm sure it's very sad for you, Rose, and for everyone who knew him.

    He always managed to squeeze something good out of every day, didn't he? Even though so many of his days in recent years were filled with suffering and the frustration of not being able to do basic tasks, added to the extreme discomfort of the disease and its treatments, he found time for some moments of peace and enjoyment of life.

    You and he together were a working team to the end.

    I'm so very sorry for your loss, Rose.
    MS, diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earth Mother 2 Angels View Post
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    His last words to me ~ “I love you honey.”
    ...may memories of that love carry you through until you reunite again.

    my (((hugs))) and sympathy, rose

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    I’m so sorry to hear the news Rose. You must truly be exhausted. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    grandmother of Tyler (24): Ohtahara Syndrome/SCN2a gene mutation, cortically visually impaired, quadriplegic, severely developmentally delayed, no speech, severe intractable seizures, frontal and temporal lobe atrophy, progressive scoliosis/kyphosis, chronic kidney stones & UTI's, gastroparesis, 100% tube fed, autonomic dysreflexia, but what a precious gift from God. "Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change."

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    Dear Rose,

    My deepest condolences to you during this most difficult time. The love you and Jim shared was exceptional. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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    Rose I am so sorry Jim died. I am thankful his last words to you were so great.

    You have been a wonderful caretaker for your family. Now you have three angels looking out for you.

    Get some rest and let everyone help you so you can get your strength back. With love, Jeanie :)

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    Rose I am so sorry for your loss. I have no words to express how sorry I am. Please don't forget to take care of yourself in the coming days. You will need your strength.

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    So sorry. I pray for a restful night. Just so sorry.

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